Usually I would have a little rant on social media about the things I am passionate about but I thought this massive rant needed a blog.
If anybody knows me and has read my rants on social media I am so passionate about the way we get affected when we are children as I believe its the things we experience, hear or don't understand makes us the person we become as we are growing up and into Adults. So you can imagine my shock horrow when I heard the news this morning about the school introducing visable jackets for "naughty" children.
Well this is my belief, not saying I am right but through all my training and personal development and the things I have felt and overcome this is what I believe. I believe there are reason's children "misbehave" and these are my reasons
a) because they do not know and understand
b) because something is the matter
c) because they don't understand their emotional feelings
d) because their is a more deeper reasons
e) they could have learning difficulities and find it difficult to express how they are feeling/struggling.
It's well known in this country that we are not allowed to feel sad, struggle or feel anxious. Emotions are so powerful and if we don't understand them we can spiral out of control. We even have to go to the doctors to get a pill if we feel down - what does that tell you. We are better if we are happy! We are not told often enough it is ok to not feel ok, so is it any wonder a lot of us suffer.
So the worst thing you can do to someone is to single children out and wear visable jackets - who makes up these rules and what is their reason behind it I would like to know. That will really affect them as they are growing older and its not fair! I tell you what would work is have professional coaches/Specialists and NLP and other professionally trained people who know why we feel and behave the way we do and what needs to happen to make the changes in children/people - no wonder people grow up feeling the way they do! Its not their fault!
I attended one of Harry Singha's events - he is an amazing Coach who has brought Life Coaching training into Schools. And he told us a story about a boy who kept getting sent out the class for misbehaving. The real reason he misbehaved was because he didn't understand what was being taught and he's rather be sent out of the class for being naughty than admitting he didn't know. That is so sad. Have you ever felt you still don't understand something and see the frustration in the person's face/tone who is teaching you? it because it is so clear to them and it's because they know and you don't and we feel terrible to keep on asking.
I was at a meeting last night with a company I do some work for and one of their students who attends college received feedback from the college to say the student in question had really misbehaved and been disruptive. The real reason - he had aspergus and he finds learning difficult - is this his fault?
I would be really interested to hear from other people in my profession or a simular role and your thoughts on this. As I feel more Personal Development needs to be brought into Schools to stop this from happening. I don't blame the Teachers either it must be frustrating for them to deal with behaviour that is beyond their control. But I often wonder to myself why we don't teach children Personal Development. I know more and more things are being done as I see Coaches and Speakers going into Schools and this needs to carry on. I only found out at 33 years old why I was quiet as School, why I had low self esteem and had no confidence. Why I stood in the corner at Playschool at didn't speak to anyone. In my opinion I am grateful I am still young enough now to continue my life as a happy and confident one. But really we should start this the moment we are born - teaching our children about life and feelings.
And yes I did get in trouble at School, I had detentions, I skived, I messed up my GCSE's, I went out with the bad boy who got expelled, but you know what there were reasons I did and it wasn't my fault. And through my own learning and development I am now a Happier Person than I used to be because I now know and understand.
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